Pregnancy is a wonderful and joyous experience. In my case it also was full of uncontrollable emotions. About 9 months ago, I was 7 months pregnant with my daughter. I had already decided on her name, but her father asked if he assist in her naming. Reluctantly, I told him yes. My family had already feel in love with her name so they were a little upset that her first name would be changed. When I thought we had finally decided on a name, I posted on Facebook that our daughter's name would be "Ashtyn Omega Ratliffe", immediately my family and others stared commenting on how that did not like the name and it was ugly. I rudely told them that they could all shut up and when they had children (or more children) that they could name their own child. I also rudely told them that Andrew and I made our child and since they had no part in her conception their opinion did not mean anything to me (my choice of words were different but hey I was emotional :) ). Something as small as my daughter's name caused confusion and conflict in my family. I ended up not speaking to my sister for a week and blocked her from my Facebook page. Eventually we all apologized and began speaking again. After all of this, her father ended up saying that he did not tell me that he wanted to name her "Ashytn". Apparently my pregnancy affected my hearing as well, so that entire disagreement was for nothing.
After reviewing this weeks resources, I realized that this situation could have been handled much differently. First, I should have respected my families opinion and we could have agreed to disagree. I knew that her name would be decided upon my myself and her father so I should have never let the opinions of others upset me. Had I been respectful,my family would have reciprocated the behavior and we all would have responded in a rational manner. Secondly, I could have said how I felt but in a less defensive and rude manner. I can honestly say that I was an emotionally unstable pregnant woman, but I should have learned how to better handle my feelings.
By the way we ended up naming our daughter "Andrea Omega" and everyone loves her name, as well as her!
LaQuasia,
ReplyDeleteAny mother could empathize with your scenario. I am glad that your family is intact and pleased with your daughter's name. I agree with your reflective strategies, but part of personal growth is learning from past mistakes. I applaud your bravery in sharing such an emotional discourse with us.
Thanks,
Cathy